Fear of Speaking – Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking Video Lecture

an exact quote from one of my clients
this is a man who is very intelligent
one of the best at what he does and he
said to me Jason I want you to I want to
hire you so that you can help me conquer
my fear he said he actually gave a
presentation about 160 people and he
comes up to me afterwards and he says
that's all great stuff but here's the
thing I have such an irrational fear
that my my hands they sweat and I forget
what I said when I presented and I'm so
scared when I come up front that I he
said I can't I don't even remember what
I'm going to say even though I practiced
what should I do I said set up three
two-hour sessions with me and we'll fix
it and here's what he said afterwards I
sent him an email and I said did you
conquer your fear in this last
presentation here's what he said the
short answer is yes I was able to give
my presentation effectively in front of
a crowd without the security of a podium
or table because when you go behind a
podium when you go back here you lose
your body language it's gone all you
have is your facial expressions in your
tone but when you're here you've got
body language again which remember is
what percent fifty five so what did I do
with this guy I did these three things
the first thing I said to him and this
is something you're all going to want to
write down because it's so safe to hear
this it's not whether you're nervous
it's whether you show it isn't that
interesting he said well what does that
mean Jason and I showed him this slide
stop doing these things these are the
top 12 things that if you do them you
look nervous and when you do it your
audience doesn't feel what safe check
this out shifting weight how many times
have you seen people shift their weight
back and forth like this or rubbing
their collar or rubbing their arms
overusing the mouse and a demo blinking
excessively widening eyes here's one of
my favorites the t-rex stance you guys
ever seen this with presenters why do
they do this because you should know
this is the most common comfortable
stance on the planet where your hands
are your side's feet are standing still
like a magnet
and your head just moving back and forth
like a swivel looking at people because
what are you looking at when you're
looking at me right now you're looking
at my what my eyes my face you're not
looking at my feet or my hands but the
reason presenters do this the t-rex it
is because they have to have a little
buffer between you and them otherwise
it's uncomfortable for them
and I often times say to the presenter
it's not about you it's about your
audience you can I'm not saying you're
going to walk around like this all the
time what I am saying is you can use
your hands to be dynamic but when you're
done with them and making a point put
them back in their holster which is
right here