Are You Addicted to Facebook? Dr. Matt Discusses Facebook Addiction Video Lecture | Neuro-Linguistic Programming: A Practical Hands-on Course - Personal Learning

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next video blog hope you guys are
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having fun doing them let me see got the
next one right here like to make sure
that i read them as they came in make
sure I get the question exactly the way
that it was worded so here we go hi Matt
I hope you're doing well I have a
question that I thought might be
something you covering your blog what
techniques would you suggest for helping
people to limit the time they use on
facebook why would you want to do that
this is something that has been
discussed with friends people may not
want to stop using it at all together
but feel that they are slightly addicted
ah that's a cool word addicted to it any
suggestions for NLP techniques that
could help by the way I started using my
business when I came back from trainers
training' and it is going well I know I
have a lot of work to do and I hope to
come and assist at one of your trainings
in the future I really appreciate all
that I've learned from you thank you
well thank you to thank you very much
for being there I appreciate that here
we go yeah facebook I got to openly
admit to you guys that I fought the
whole Facebook thing for a little while
we're good on technology I mean we have
NLP com hypnosis com unicom we get this
whole technology internet thing and when
Facebook came along I guess maybe
because my reaction to my space I wasn't
really a big fan of that whole social
networking things and of course I found
that it worked i mean i was in san jose
and lemoore and by the way i asked her
permission to use her name if I don't
ask permission like when i get these
emails if you don't put in the email you
can say my name I don't say your name
lemoore shows up at the Hoonah weekend I
was doing in san jose and she goes oh
I'm so glad you posted on your updates
that you're coming to San Jose that's
how I knew to come and assist and I went
yeah okay I get it it works right around
that time I received an email from a
student and this was back before i was
doing these blogs and the student
emailed me and said I'm having so much
trouble with my marketing I'm having
trouble getting things going i'm having
trouble really attracting to me these
people in my trainings and i want some
help and I'm sitting there I'm reading
the email and pondering I'm thinking
okay how can I help this person out you
know she's a student she's done so much
work what can I do
to assist her and i'm looking through
facebook and all of a sudden I get this
private message from her and she sends
me a golden potato and I'm looking at
this going what's up is a golden potato
I mean it's this farmville thing and I
turned to Gina one of our trainers and I
say Gina what is this farmville thing
and she says well basically what you do
is you sit there at Facebook and you
press the spacebar over and over again
you know like one of those rats in the
maze and you hit the button and a little
pellet comes out and you get to eat it
and I say what does it do for you she
says nothing it really just you know you
can become like a master grand master
farmer and have golden radishes and
whatnot and I kind of SAT there and I
admit I add a little bit of frustration
come up I'm like why is she emailing me
that she's having problems with her
marketing when she's sitting there going
tap tap tap tap tap trying to make a
radish turn from red to gold I mean who
cares if you're a grand master farmer in
farmville who cares if you win that
mafia thing who cares how many friends
you have on facebook here's what I'm
asking you do you know your purpose for
being here do you know why you are meant
to be here have you let go of the
baggage that is preventing you from
doing what you're meant to be doing so
you can have what you're meant to have
because really from a psychological
perspective people use these things like
Facebook to escape from reality the
reality of having to deal with their
stuff maybe there's a fear a fear that
they might fail so rather than even
trying what they do is they become a
grandmaster because then they feel like
they got an accomplishment here's my
best suggestion in answering this email
the first thing is you have to look at
this from an entirely different
perspective you have to look at these
things for what they are meant to be
Facebook is meant to be social
networking keep in contact with your
friends post what you're doing if all of
a sudden you find that that's taking
away from some other area of your life
you have one of two options number one
you can make a change let go of the
baggage let go of the anger the sadness
to fear the guilt get in touch with your
purpose why you are here what are you
meant to be doing who are you meant to
be
begin to do that the second thing is is
that you can do a specific NLP technique
maybe you can do a swish pattern maybe
you can do the chain of anchors
procrastination to motivation maybe you
can do a sub modality belief change in
what it is that you are able to do with
your time there's a final third one and
this is just kind of a common sense
thing and that is if you are on your
purpose and you have been practicing
these techniques and you are able to get
the results maybe you just got to wake
up and say guess what I'm going to
choose to do something different plain
and simple and I know you might be
saying well how do you do that a lot of
you who listen to this have already done
so much change work maybe there's not
another technique to do maybe there's
not another thing to release maybe it's
just time for you to remember who you
are what you're meant to be doing and
get up and do that clean it simple you
get you can't think that I want to work
out every day there are some mornings
rod rather just stay in bed and be lazy
Skyler cuddled in to our bed this
morning and I was lying down with her
and I'm like work out when I got up and
I worked out yeah maybe get up workout
is an anchor that I use or maybe I've
just done it so many times and it's
become an anchor who knows here's how i
do know we are what we repeatedly do
there for excellence is not a chance
excellence is a habit that you form we
are what we repeatedly do so if we
repeatedly go that's what we're going to
become begin to make a shift on the
physical level because one ounce of
action is worth a ton of theory so take
action yeah 3 requisites for change let
go of your stuff take action and then
focus on what it isn't you need to be
focusing on so I hope that helps with
the audio blog let's wrap it up as we
always do malama pono we all stand in
righteousness Aloha ke ke ke kahi treat
everyone with love and respect it
doesn't have to be perfect it just needs
to be your best and do your best with
this one and finally Aloha a Hui ho
class dismissed take care love you all
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