Expressing Condolences in English - Advance English lesson Video Lecture - Verbal

hi my name is Neha Rita and welcome to a
new lesson today we are going to learn
how to express or how to offer
condolences now what does the word
condolence mean well it means where you
are showing sympathy you empathize with
the bereaved and you acknowledge
someone's dead now what does the word
bereaved mean well-briefed is the person
who is grieving over the loss of the
death of a loved one okay so that person
is called us bereaved right so at times
it gets difficult to offer condolences
especially in English because deep
emotions are involved you want to show
you support you want to show your care
and concern to that bereaved person but
you really don't want to say something
that would sadden or disturbed that
disturb that person right so that's why
I here in this lesson we are going to
learn some expressions that would help
you to offer your condolences okay so
let's have a look here the first one is
I'm sorry for your loss
now I'm sorry for your loss is
definitely very commonly used by people
and it is a very sweet and simple
heartfelt expression to show or to offer
your condolences so you can always stick
to this expression when you have to
offer condolences be it your friend be
it your relative or be a person who was
not very close to you okay you can
always use this expression it's just a
perfect one but we also have some other
options for you here we have words can
express my sorrow for your loss or you
can also say that I can't explain how
sad I am so here basically you're
falling short of words you know you are
admitting that you are tongue-tied and
don't you think it's always better to
admit that
rather than falling back on a platitude
so you can always use this expression if
you think you have nothing else to say
so words can express my sorrow for your
loss or I don't know how to express the
sadness for your loss okay another one
that we have is she or he will be sadly
missed you can always keep it simple
that she or he will be sadly missed and
you can also add maybe some detail or a
small story about the person who died
and always make sure that you use the
past tense verb to describe that person
who is dead okay because usually people
end up using especially English learners
end up using the present tense and that
is not right because that person is gone
he's dead he's no more right so whenever
you have to describe or you want to show
that show a quality of the person who
died okay use the past tense verb okay
and the last one over here that we have
for you is I am here for you if you need
anything now this shows that you do care
about that person okay about the
bereaved person right so here you're
saying that I'm here for you if you need
anything you can also specify that how
you can help maybe you can help with the
kids or maybe you can offer a
home-cooked meal
or maybe even you can catch up for a
coffee you know if the person feels a
little up you can definitely take him or
her out for a coffee right so this is
the way you would express your concern
by saying that I'm here for you if you
need anything okay you can use these
expressions to offer your condolences
and now let's have a look at offering
condolences in writing what if you want
to email or what if you want to write it
on someone's social networking blog okay
so let's have a look now it is not
always necessary that you would get
chance to pay a wizard to the family of
the dead right because if you're not
living in the same city or if you're not
living in the same country it gets
difficult for you to visit the family so
many people do opt for writing so either
they send letters or they send
condolences cards that you that are
always available at stationery stores or
they also opt for emails okay so if you
are writing on expressing your
condolences then what you can use is
please accept our sincere condolences
okay so this is on the behalf of your
whole family you are writing and you're
offering your condolences in an email or
in a letter okay our people also use the
social networking sites like the
Facebook okay so make sure that you
always take out a little time and send a
message okay rather than just putting it
in a blog if you can always send a
personal message and you can use these
expressions saying please accept our
sincere condolences or I would like to
express my sincere condolences on the
debt off the person's name who died okay
okay so this is the way you would write
okay and here are the closing
expressions now of course when you go me
to say that I'm sorry for your loss and
now when you're leaving okay you've paid
you've paid a wizard and now when you're
leaving you can always use these
expressions you can say your family will
be in my thoughts and prayers okay so
here you're showing your concern that
okay we are not just going to forget
about it but we are going to pray for
your family okay and the other one that
I have for you is wishing you peace as
you grieve this loss okay so these are
the perfect expressions for closing your
condolence
okay you can also use it in your emails
okay when you're writing you can also
use these expressions and you can also
say it when you're visiting someone okay
now many people also use the expression
time will heal okay this is not the
right expression to use of course it is
a fact that time would heal but not the
right time to say it okay it is kind of
a little rude because if the death is so
fresh then definitely I would not
suggest to use the expression time will
heal everything okay so how these
expressions are helpful for you to offer
or to express condolences okay so next
time if someone got forbidden if someone
dies you know what you would have to say
okay I will be back with a new lesson
soon till then you take care
you